She has also shared the issues of our relationship with this single female lesbian that she works with, and has now told me that this woman wants to spend time with her. Sometimes I would think I was imaging it all, but instinct is so strong. Do you think I am imagining it? Im a good looking guy with a lot to offer someone else and I certainly deserve more. Note my long term partner and I have had our share of problems over the couple of years and were currently trying hard to resolve them because I care about her. Your lover has a partner who will be traumatized when she discovers this affair. I went through all the classic freaks and twists and boundary settings.